Cheryl Seidel, etiquette expert, and regular contributing writer for the Huffington Post, shares her expert advice on the do’s and don’t’s of destination weddings. Destination weddings have become increasingly popular and what’s not to love about combining a fun, memorable wedding with a fabulous honeymoon?! We’ve discovered several reasons that couples are choosing a destination wedding over a local wedding:

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1. It’s easier. A destination wedding can be easy to plan. Many wedding planners specialize in destination weddings and can plan the entire weekend. Also, many venues have become wedding specialists, with full-service ceremony packages and on-site wedding coordinators to help plan the big day, which can help reduce wedding planning stress.

2. Ease any family issues. any problems can be solved with a destination wedding. Sometimes relationships are complicated and family situations may not be ideal. Also, if each set of parents has a different opinion about the style and location of the wedding, a destination wedding may be something to consider.

3. You can start the honeymoon early. Just arriving at your destination is sure to put you in a relaxed mood as the pre-wedding festivities begin. Many hotels offer automatic upgrades to the bride and groom on their wedding night, and you may be able to negotiate an extended minimoon at a reduced rate after the guests have gone home.

4. Enjoy quality time with loved ones. Destination weddings are a great excuse to plan an unforgettable family getaway to commemorate a very special occasion.

5. You’ll share a locale you love. Part of the joy of a destination wedding is showing off a place that has special meaning to you, be it bringing friends and family back to a beloved college campus, sharing where you took your first vacation as a couple or finally going to a locale you’ve always dreamed of visiting.

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Who Pays?

Whether you’re having your wedding on lush tropical island or at a secluded mountain hideaway- you may be wondering who covers certain expenses. Though the costs of destination weddings are shared in the same way as any other wedding, there are additional things to consider since there are added expenses such as transportation, meals, and accommodations that may not be part of a hometown wedding.

Wedding Expenses
Customarily, a wedding is paid for by the bride’s family and this practice can stand true for a destination wedding as well. But as you know, traditions are evolving and couples and their families are sharing expenses in a variety of ways. Before any planning is done, we recommend that the couple meet with all parties involved to determine exactly how costs will be divided.

Guests’ Expenses
It is the responsibility of your guests to pay for their lodging and transportation for a destination wedding. As soon as you have your date and location reserved, we suggest sending out “Save the Date” cards. Try to do this at least 6-9 months in advance and be sure to include information about the destination and hotel accommodations. This will give your guests plenty of time to plan their trip and will ensure they have the opportunity to get the best travel rates.

Furthermore, guests’ typically pay for their own meals during a destination wedding. In addition to the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, we love the idea of hosting extra events such as a welcome dinner or farewell brunch. After all, your guests have likely traveled a long way and have invested time and money to celebrate with you!

When you mail out your wedding invitations, include information about all planned wedding events so guests know what activities are prearranged as well as which meals will be covered during their stay. You may want to consider adding these events to your response card so that your guests can RSVP for all events at one time.

Wedding Party’ Expenses
The wedding party’s expenses are shared in the same way for both hometown and destination weddings. Traditionally, attendants are responsible for their own transportation to the wedding as well as their wedding attire and accessories. It is the duty of the couple to cover the cost of accommodations for their wedding party. However, it seems that many couples today are expecting the attendants to pay for their own accommodations for a destination wedding. We feel this cost should be included in the wedding budget. Kindly take into consideration the travel expenses and be upfront with your attendants about the costs so there are no questions about who is paying for what. When you ask your bridesmaids or groomsmen to stand up with you, let them know the location of wedding, exact dates you’d like them there, and confirm which of the expenses you will be covering. And as we mentioned about the guests- if at all possible, help cover the cost of some of your attendant’s meals.

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Post was in collaboration with etiquette expert Cheryl Seidel of Registry Finder

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Our new favorite blogger Chloe MacKintosh of Boxwood Avenue is sharing a sneak peak at a calligraphy DIY project she created for her own wedding.  In fact, this beauty and her hubby were married, here, in Lake Tahoe at the West Shore Cafe and Innand we are dying to see the photos! Chloe teamed up with Tahoe Unveiled vendors Melina Wallisch Photography and Dax Victorino Films to give you a quick look into the art of calligraphy.

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After Greg and I got engaged, I decided I was going to learn calligraphy, in order to do myself, what would have traditionally been outsourced to a calligraphist. After a few practice sessions, I fell in love with calligraphy, and haven’t looked back. I definitely don’t consider myself a calligraphist, more of a hobbyist experimenting with different techniques, but as I learned, I found some amazing resources, and have decided to share them with you! If you’ve been wanting to learn calligraphy, I’ve just launched a completely free workshop on my blog, so head on over and sign up! I promise, all it takes is a little patience and a whole lot of practice.

MATERIALS

Luxe Cream Paper
Gold Ink
Your favorite calligraphy pen and nib (Nikko G is my favorite!)
Lettermate
Pencil
Eraser
Scrapbooking Trimmer

INSTRUCTIONS

STEP 1
Cut menus and table numbers into 5×7” pieces, and name tags into 2.5×4” pieces using the scrapbook trimmer.

STEP 2
Using your pencil and lettermate, lightly mark straight lines along the paper. One line for name tags, two lines (spaced far apart) for the table numbers, and multiple lines for the menus.

STEP 3
Shake your gold ink well, dip your pen into the ink, and get to writing! Try printing a few of the lines in all caps to add dimension to the menus.

STEP 4
Allow the ink to fully dry, then erase the pencil lines.

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Vendors:
Photography: Melina Wallisch Photography | Cinematography: Dax Victorino Films | Floral Design and Calligraphy: Chloe Legras of Boxwood Avenue | Venue: The Depot Craft Brewery Distillery

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Now that your best friend, sister, college roommate is engaged – it’s time to start thinking about the bachelorette party! There are so many ideas but we have a few tips to get you started on the right track.

1. Pick the group that he feels comfortable “letting loose” around | Get the invite list from the bride and let her decide who she would like to have join – if she hasn’t spoken to someone in a while or doesn’t feel comfortable in Vegas with work colleagues, they don’t need to get an invite.

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2. Remember, this is her night/weekend | Focus on what will make her have fun and enjoy a relaxing evening, not what everyone else wants to do.If sipping wine by a roaring fire while glamping, or partying all night in Vegas are things that will make your bride-to-be happy, then that is what your plan should entail.

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3. Create a budget | Once you have the guest list created, ask everyone what they are comfortable spending. If it’s relatively small, keep this in mind and maybe plan a one-night, local adventure. If everyone has a little more wiggle room, maybe consider turning this into a weekend relaxation trip or quick flight to somewhere fun.

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4. Elect one person for planning | It’s so easy for everyone to brainstorm and come up with a million locations, ideas, themes, etc. Let one person coordinate all of the details and then as a group finalize everything. That way no one is doing double work and everything will be more seamless.

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5. Take care of transportation | Do everyone a favor and rent either a limo, town car, or party bus. No one wants to be the “sober” one for this fun night out, so everyone should build in their budget an allotment for responsible transportation.

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We are very excited to welcome Tahoe Unveiled vendor, florist Brandie Chisholm of  B&B Designs. Brandie has been creating gorgeous floral designs for Lake Tahoe weddings for years and we absolutely love her creativity and style. Here are Brandie’s top tips for choosing your wedding flowers.

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1. Where to begin. Create a folder or Pinterest board and place images that you like in it. You should start to notice a pattern or a theme through these images that will ultimately help you decide on your style, theme and color palette.

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2. Choose your color palette. Pick your main color/colors based on colors you have always liked. Remember that not every flower comes in every color, so if a specific flower is more important to you then the color, then you may want to pick your color based on that flower. Couples should also be open to a range of colors, due to the fact that flowers come from nature and may come in shades of your color but not the exact color.

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3. Decide on a style or theme that fits YOU. The flowers are the perfect way to relay your theme to your guests. How your flowers are designed should have a reflection on you the couple. A couple should think about what style best describes them, whether it be elegant, classical, rustic, vintage, country, etc and choose that style that best fits them. Also, keep in mind the venue you have selected because it too may influence this decision.

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4. Set aside a floral budget. Most people don’t realize the expense of flowers and often cut this part of the budget short. Couples, however, should remember that the flowers are what brings everything together. They add the extra beauty to your space and photos, and are a way to transform your venue, represent your style, and create the “wow” effect that your guests will remember.

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5. 2015 wedding flower trends. This year in color I am seeing a lot of whites, creams, and blushes with a marsala/burgundy accent and touches of gold. I am also noticing that bouquets and arrangements are loosening up and overall vases are moving toward a more elegant container. Garland is also making a huge appearance in this year’s wedding scene.

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Emergency Kit-1

On your wedding day, even the smallest of problems can send you into an absolute panic. So, no matter how calm, cool and collective you think you are we suggest packing an emergency kit that keeps you prepared for anything life tries to throw at you on this special day. Here we provide a list, broken down by category, of all the odds and ends you might for some odd reason need in an instant on your wedding day.

And, if the sound of assembling one of these kits sounds like something you want, but the last thing you want to focus your energy on, then we suggest two things. If you have a planner, ask them if they come equipped with such a kit — we bet they do. If you don’t have a planner, these bridal emergency kits can be ordered from sites like Pinch Provisions or With You In Mind Inc.
Emergency Kit

Apparel Emergencies

Sewing Kit
Crochet Hook
Safety Pins
Batteries
Lint Roller
Scotch Guard
Clear Nail Polish
Hem Tape
White Chalk – great at removing red wine stains
Extra Earring Backs
Stain Remover

Beauty Emergencies

Tweezers
Nail Glue
Eyelash Glue
Blotting Papers
Clear Nail Polish
Lipstick
Hair Spray
Face Mist
Krazy Glue
Sunblock
Bobby Pins
Clear Hair Elastics

Hygiene Emergencies

Baby Powder
Tampons
Breath Mints
Tissues
Asprin
Band-Aids
Dentel Floss
Snacks
Deodorant
Blister Balm
Antacid

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There are lots of traditions associated with weddings, but toasting of the bride and the groom with Champagne (or sparkling wine) is one of the most historic traditions that we honor. Sparkling wine is truly the wine of celebration and your wedding is the ultimate time to celebrate! So I never suggest you skip the champagne toast. I have to say, it’s actually one of my favorite parts of the evening. If high end Champagne is a bit too rich for your blood, then here are 3 of our favorite alternatives:

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Evolution Sparkling Wine, $20 – Bursts of citrus and aromatics of apricot, green apple and Bosc pear, this bright, delicious glass of bubbly starts off dry and finishes crisp. Pairs well with just about anything and is the ideal match for hors d’oeuvres, especially salty dishes.

Nicolas Feuillatte Champagne, $35 On par with entry-level bottles from Piper-Heidsieck, Veuve Clicquot, Laurent-Perrier, and Moët & Chandon. The Blue Label is crisp with hints of peach and green apple overtones.

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NV Le Grand Courtage Grande Cuvee Brut Rose, $20 – A pink blend of Chardonnay, Ugni Blanc, and Gamay. Fresh and fruity, with clear strawberry notes on the nose. A bracing and lasting acidity comes along quickly on the palate, offering some floral elements — almost green and grassy at times. The finish is clean and inviting, that strawberry element lingering, along with some rose petal notes. Lovely and difficult to put down

 

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When the big weekend arrives, even the most excited guests could use a little boost! And there’s no better way to treat your nearest and dearest than with the perfect Lake Tahoe wedding welcome bag. This Fall and Winter, our advice is to stuff those goody bags chock-full of cool-weather treats, and kick off that wedding weekend in the yummiest ways!

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Step 1: Start by choosing a unique packaging to hold your welcome goodies. We like a canvas bags or wooden boxes that guests can reuse. You can even iron on details to make it more personal.

Step 2: Start building your bag. Infuse a personal touch by adding treats that are locally sourced, special to you as a couple, or are unique finds for your guests. Include warm drinks like hot cocoa, tea or coffee and sweet bites to make guests feel at home. Try a package of granola and honey to be enjoyed in the morning.

Step 3: Be sure to include a map or activities card for guests to reference. If you have a wedding website with an online itinerary, be sure to direct your guests there for more information.

Step 4: A sweet additional and personalized touch, handwritten ‘Thank You’ notes for each guest are a thoughtful gesture that go a long way.

Step 5: Your welcome bag is ready for delivery! Your guests will love their warm welcome due to every thoughtful detail.

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What To Wear To A Lake Tahoe Wedding

The most important thing to remember when shopping for a Lake Tahoe wedding is you want to look cool and stylish, but you don’t want to distract from the bride or draw attention for the wrong reasons. We recommend you use the wording on the invitation or the time of year to determine your wedding attire. Casual Summer = Sundress, Semi-Formal = Cocktail Dress and Black Tie = Long Evening Gown.

But first, let us tell you the ground rules for dressing for a wedding.

Rule number one: Don’t ever, EVER wear white to a wedding. Also avoid wearing white to pre-wedding festivities, like the engagement party, shower or rehearsal dinner. The only exception to this rule is if there’s an all-white dress code for one of the celebrations.

Rule number two: It’s better to be overdressed than underdressed. If an invite says “black tie optional,” err on the side of caution and wear a long dress or dark suit or tux. Like your mom always said, it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Rule number three: You can wear black to a wedding—it’s not off-limits. It used to be taboo to wear black to weddings, but now a little black dress is totally appropriate for an evening affair.

Rule number four: Always be respectful to religious affiliations. If you know the wedding is going to be held in a Catholic church, it might not be a bad idea to cover bare arms with a sweater and avoid showing too much leg or cleavage.

Our friends at The Black Tux came up with this great infographic to help you, and your man, decide:

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